WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Mom forces son fight … Life Lesson or Bad Parenting!?

Recently, a video was posted on WorldStar Hip-Hop, where a mother is seen forcing her son to fight another boy and even goes so far as to tell him not to cry and fight! Plenty of emotions, opinions and comments abound, as to if she handled this properly… or naw!? Is she, as she calls it, teaching her son to be a Man, to be violent, or just plain stupid!?

I'm torn on this one too. The first fight I ran from, around 8yrs old, my mom went in on me about running too! She didn't force me to go back out and fight that one person, but she did teach me to man up and if the playing field is level, do what you gotta do! My mom was also in the Army, so yea, no son of hers was gonna be a coward! LOL!

I guess, the real question is, in 2014, would I teach my kids to go back out there and fight... maybe not... because running into the unknown, unprepared, is pure stupidity! But I do know this, I will teach him to stand up for himself and others, be brave enough to not let someone run over you, but smart enough to know how to either calm the situation, or if all else fails, walk away alive (hopefully, never know with the nuts out here these days). As parents we have to draw that fine line between integrity and stupidity! And hope to GOD that he is watching and protecting our babies while they walk that line!

That is what Stylez thinks, what do you think!? Watch the video and then comment below!

 

Source: WorldStarHipHop.com

WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Law Enforcement vs. Everybody – What will force them to actually #ProtectAndServe!?

Recently, I was reading on a friend’s FB wall about another example of police officers, overstepping the boundaries of “Protect And Serve” and into the realm of “Abuse and Exploit”! Read a little here:

Quinshon Shingles (pictured) a rising rapper who claims New York Police Department (NYPD) officers entered his aunt’s apartment without a warrant, handcuffed him, and forced him to rap for his release has won a $7,500 settlement in the case, the New York Daily News reports.

In her comment, my friend asked the question:

…there seems to be a disproportionate amount of Caucasian people in law enforcement in policing minority neighborhoods. What if WE (as minorities) apply for these jobs and do these jobs... will this type of abuse still be there?

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I would LOVE to believe that racially match-making police officers to their assigned communities would aid in reducing some of the excessive violence, exploitation and corruption, HOWEVER, I have seen first hand, black-on-black, Latino-on-Latino and White-on-White offenses occur between Law Enforcement and Citizens they are charged with "Protecting and Serving"!

I don't believe anything will quell these offenses besides ensuring proper psychiatric evaluations are used in the selection of Law Enforcement officers, including evaluating their anger management, coping skills and their ability to handle the pressures and ills of policing society! Unfortunately, that alone would probably reduce most police forces to bare bones staff!

Secondly, it will take one other simple action on the part of the Criminal Justice system when it comes to handling the arbitration and remediation of the offences... ACCOUNTABILITY! The day you make Law Enforcement officers accountable for their deeds and actions, across the board and no exceptions, is the day you start to reign in some (not all of course) of the ills that Law Enforcement commit against the public! At this point, they get away with murder, and have no reason to feel responsible for their actions! And that has got to stop!

More on Mr. Shingles story just further reveals and supports my point, if we don’t hold them account, Law Enforcement will continue to be corrupt and exploitive:

N.Y.C. Pays Settlement To Handcuffed Man Forced To Rap For Release

Mar 26, 2014 By Hannington Dia

Shingles, better known as “Sauce Da Boss,” alleged in his suit that officers David Grieco and Joseph Patton entered the East New York apartment to question a suspect. They eventually cuffed him and told him to craft some “spits and bars,” and if they liked his lyrics, they would release him.

Shingles claimed the encounter killed his desire to perform onstage.

According to Shingles’ suit, Grieco and Patton fooled the building’s superintendent in to giving them a duplicate set of keys to enter the apartment.

Grieco and other officers from the 75th Precinct have been under investigation by the Internal Affairs Bureau for allegations, including stealing jewelry and illegal apartment searches. Grieco is also named in 12 federal and state lawsuits for civil rights violations.

In its response to the suit, the city denied Shingles’ claims. “It does not appear that either plaintiff was arrested… there will be very few police documents relevant to this matter,” Assistant Corporation CounselQiana Smith-Williams said in court papers. Despite this stance, the city continued the suit without any depositions. They claim no wrongdoing in the settlement.

WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Moments In Black History (via Spoken Words & Thoughts - @spknwrdthts)

So What Does Stylez Think?

 

After reading this, it still surprises me and I realize sometimes, you forget how manipulative the customs and then laws were, in order to "keep us under control"! And how far we've come to fight and change those laws! But how far we still need to go to get people to turn from these attitudes!

MOMENTS IN BLACK HISTORY

1857
Richmond, Virginia, passes a comprehensive slave code that, among other stipulations, prohibits self-hiring by slaves, restricts blacks from entering certain parts of the city, specifies street etiquette, and forbids slaves from smoking, carrying canes, standing on the sidewalk, and using provocative language.

via Moments In Black History | Spoken Words & Thoughts

Powerful reminder, huh!?



That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Leave it in the comments!

WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Where will Love take you!?

One of my blog sisters, Ms Nikks, recently (well about an hour ago, as I write this), wrote a post where she asked, in so many words:

Do you think you can love two people at the same time?

It was based on a quote she read:

If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

That's a hard one! I have to say, he is partially right. I would have to say, you didn't love the 1st AS MUCH AS YOU THOUGHT, or you wouldn't have loved the 2nd. BUT, as Nikks brought out, I think it IS possible to love 2 people! You have to think about, what love is, and what makes people love one another. Love isn't a set, static, clearly defined thing! It is a dynamic emotion, shaped by life, by experience, by choices made and regrets of the heart. Love cannot be directed, sometimes it just attaches! And if you find that you are in love with 2, then you have to find what "Love Is" to you. Is it comfort, is it stabilty, is it excitement, etc. It is not easy, and there may be heartbreak at some point. But if you truly know what love is to your heart, it makes it easier to decide. Love is not easy. And you can't control where it may lead you. But YOU have to make that final decision of where you end up!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think?

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Posterous Acquired By @Twitter ... WORSE News EVER!

So, I was minding my own business, checking my email. Then I came across this HORRID news:

From: Posterous Spaces [mailto:no-reply@posterous.com]
Sent: Monday, March 19, 2012 6:03 PM
To: @WillieStylez
Subject: Posterous has been acquired by Twitter

Hi Willie,
I’m thrilled to announce that Posterous has been acquired by Twitter! The opportunities in front of Twitter are exciting, and we couldn’t be happier to bring our technology and expertise to hundreds of millions of users around the globe. Plus, the people at Twitter are genuinely nice folks who share our vision for making sharing simpler.
Posterous Spaces will remain up and running without disruption. We’ll give users ample notice if we make any changes to the service. For users who would like to back up their content or move to another service, we’ll share clear instructions for doing so in the coming weeks.
You can find more information answers to other questions you may have here.
Thanks again and I look forward to building great things for you at Twitter.
- Sachin

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I know most of you don't realize this, but Twitter as a company, is EVIL! No, they aren't Illuminati (I guess), and no they don't trip old folks, or eat babies... but love to RUIN good technology! I mean, don't get me wrong, I love Twitter, the social networking site. I live for it. But Twitter the company, has a very bad habit of buying GREAT companies (Tweetdeck, BagCheck, AdGrok, etc.) and then ruining them! Or cannabilizing the talent!

It's OK for some companies I'm sure, especially when they are built on the premise of looking for the next big acquisition. But it just sucks for us regular folks looking for great software, services and apps. But then a big bully like Twitter comes along and decides the technology no longer needs to survive! I wouldn't care if they weren't so abrupt about flexing their preferences and likes and attitudes upon us (a la Apple Inc & Steve Jobs).

Case in point... TweetDeck. It was a great web service and application. Most people knew it as one of the best, if not THE BEST social network client (able to handle Twitter/Facebook/etc). But then Twitter came along, they not only cannabilized the talent, but then they forced the TweetDeck to remove signature and loved features; including long tweets and RT of any tweet. I mean the latter was a (very slight) security concern, since before Twitter got involved, we could RT anyone's tweets, including people who had locked their accounts. But to remove long tweets because you don't think people should be allowed to go outside of your small, limited box, of 140 characters is just assinine! I mean, where they do that at!? ... Oh yea... @ TWITTER! SMDH!

Anyway, I just hope Posterous workers/developers can influence some change at Twitter. But if things go the way it appears to be, we may have to say good bye to Posterous far too soon. FML!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Do you have any other beef with Twitter? Leave it in the comments!

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Business Use of Social Media

I was on a professional social networking site again and a question was asked:

Where does a business cross the line from smart business development via social media to "over-social" behavior that scares prospects away?

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I don't mind companies having a Facebook, Twitter, Youtube or other types of pages. However, it just bothers me when they lose sight of WHY they should have those kinds of pages. I don't want to visit your empty YouTube page, it should have your commercials or product sample vids or something! I don't want to follow you on Twitter just for you to pump the same advertisments down my throat that everyone spouts, give me useful info, announcments, tech/customer support, something of value. And I definitely don't want to "like" a Facebook page just for a banner ad or a few pictures of your magazine ads; there should be a fully interactive, media experience there to engage and enlighten the consumer! Without the right elements, social media can be incomplete or just plain annoying!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? What companies do you think are breaking the rules and best practices of social media?

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Being A Mentor

Recently I was on a professional networking site and someone posed the question:

How many of us really have TIME to be a good Mentor?

This was a poll and at the time, 46% said they had the time, 15% said they didn't, 31% said only if the mentee was seeking relevant professional help and 8% were undecided!!! That's 23% of people who either wouldn't give their time or didn't know if they would have time to mentor someone! Keep in mind, these are answers given by PROFESSIONALS! People with good jobs, working for great corporations! That's a sad state of affairs I think!

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I agree with the 46%, and I think that it doesn't take A LOT of time, because you don't have to dedicate an entire workday to being a mentor. But also I must say, it is a two-way street! There must be commitment from both parties, the mentor and the mentee, in order to add value! When I was younger, I had a mentor who spent about an hour a day (two hours on one day each week) helping me with life lessons and providing support for whatever activities I was invovled in. That was beneficial to me for the lessons I learned and the attributes I gained such as supporting others, caring and professionalism. It was beneficial for my mentor's time because I actually listened and applied the lessons and advice he gave me! The thing is, you don't always have to seek out a person to mentor and go to a special place, like my mentor did. Sometimes, being a mentor is just about helping and guiding the people around you that need your expertise and experience. It's about providing sound advice when asked and taking a few minutes out your day to lend a hand to person who needs your help! I try to do that with anyone I come across, because I wouldn't be where I am if someone had not done that for me! Get involved, lend a hand, give back, be sounding board, whatever it takes, because believe me, if you don't provide the positive; there's someone MORE THAN WILLING to give that person the negative! And that would be a sad state of affairs, indeed!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think!? Let me know!

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WHAT WILLIE STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => "What Comes First?" via Ms. Nikks

Do you think your spouse should come before your children or your children should come before your spouse? Do you think they can share the spot and everyone can come out on top?

via nikksd.wordpress.com

The above question was posed, along with the list a Christian (or church) marriage counselor gave as a list of people who hold importance in your life:
1. God
2. Spouse
3. Kids
4. Everything else...

Well, you know Willie Stylez had to answer the question!

Another blogger, TheDLife, stated a GREAT case for why they would put GOD and then THEMSELVES first! I loved TheDLife's response very much, so I would have to say my list goes as follows:

1. GOD
2. ME
3. Wife
4. Kids
5. Ext Family/Close Friends
6. Everything Else

I commented that why I chose #2 to be me is:

"The fact that we forget ourselves in the equation is POWERFUL! I have told people, time and again, that they must be happy and fulfilled by themselves before they can make someone else happy in a relationship with them!" I have to be right with myself, and have improved (and continue to improve) myself before I can be of any worth to my wife, kids, etc.

I put my wife above my kids only because, in front of GOD, I declared an everlasting love and commitment to my wife! I also declared, by default and following HIS guidance, that I would:

"Train up a child in the way he should GO; even when he is old he will not depart from it."

And then

"a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh"

So because I am ONE FLESH with my wife, and I feel that my children will learn from my teaching and go out and become one flesh with their own spouses, then I have done my job for them! I am not saying I will stop loving and assisting them, but I have to let them go and let them lead their own lives!

We get so caught up in that VERY SHORT 18-years we have a child with us, that we forget the LIFETIME we're supposed to spend with our spouse. It's true, marriage is not guaranteed (especially in these horrible times) BUT if you truly work at making the marriage and family successful, then it can be! It's sad that many marriages end because of that "stranger-danger" (the problem of spouses becoming "strangers" because they spend so much time taking care of kids/career/etc and forget to take care & continue to know their spouse)! But it's avoidable if you put the work into sharing the family workload, as well as share in the work of being ONE FLESH!

My wife and I make it a point to talk about our day, our lives, our fears/goals/dreams, we go out on dates (together, of course, LOL) and take a (no kids) vacation each year, among other things. That way we can connect and re-connect on a regular basis. All the while, as we raise our family!

That's what Stylez thinks! What do you think?

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Finding Solutions! #AdaptOrDie

So What Does Stylez Think?

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I was on Facebook this EARLY morning and ran into a quote on a friend's status:

"If you can't solve it, it's not a problem--it's reality." -B. Colorose

Now, I may not fully understand what this means. And I surely don't know who "B. Colorose" is in order to put the quote into perspective. But at first (and second) read, I knew I had a problem with this quote.

In my estimation, it almost sounds like it's saying "if YOU can't figure it out, just give up and settle!!!" But that is not always true in life. Sometimes people need to just look for external resources, the help/advice/inspiration of other people, and to keep looking for solutions or ways to adapt! Adapting is not giving up, it is the solution of working with what you have available! And that is one thing people need to realize, you may not be successful in your current situation; but if you adapt then use your current situation as a catapult, you can still excel and be successful!

I have never been one to settle for what was given to me, unless I was satisfied. Satisfaction in life, love, family, career, etc, should be of the utmost importance. But just accepting something as "it's reality" or "it is what it is", is no way to live life!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think?

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Bad Relationships! Who's to blame?

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I was reading through some statuses on Facebook and came across a friend who stated:

I dont think men realize how much influence they have on the wellbeing of a woman. Is it a sense of immaturity or a case of ignorance? I hate seeing other women hurt when they don't have to be! No wonder why so many black women are excelling professionally and dating out of their race!

- my FB Friend

Of course, I had a comment and felt that something had to be said!

I'm just going to say, women need to stop messing with BOYS trying to play the role of a grown MAN! Age ain't nothing but a number, if you're actions can't attest to your maturity! That is the main problem with these “little boys lost”! I have to admit, there are a lot of "brothers" (black, white, Puerto Rican, Asian, and other) that are screwing up, but there are plenty that show up! It's like anything else in life; you are only going to hear the complaints. You rarely hear the accolades! Dating out your race is fine if love is what placed you there, but writing a race off because of the actions of a few is no way to live your life!

One thing PEOPLE need to learn to do is COMMUNICATE before they CONSUMMATE! Without understanding one another and REALLY getting to know your mate, before placing the trust of your heart & soul in that person, you set yourself up for failure! It's true some people are patient and do the right thing, and still get hurt; but 75 - 85% of the time, it’s that lack of patience and rushing things along that causes good people to have bad relationships! It is that lack of patience that buries us too deep, too fast! Love is a two way street. Be patient, let common sense guide you and you will be protected from MOST heartache! If a "boy" can't respect that, then you know you haven't found a "man" worthy of your heart!

Don't get me wrong, I don't blame women for their own heartache, there is no denying that men can really SUCK sometime! I think it's a team effort! And if people can work together to make a relationship what it's supposed to be, communicating and compromising, then a lot of these heartaches & headaches can be avoided! At least that is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Please comment or tell your story!

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Taking the Name! Should a woman change her name when she marries?

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I was reading a post from my blog sister, Sunny Delyte, and she posed the two questions:

Fellaz, how would you feel if you soon-to-be wife didn’t want to take your name or hyphenate her name?
Ladies, would you take your soon-to-be husband’s last name? If not, why?

Before I was married I felt that I wanted my wife to take my last name. Like you, I was thinking of tradition. I think also that because of religious teachings, the woman and man become one, and essentially the man is the head of the household, so the household get's his name. But now that I'm in the "real world" (LOL!), I realize there's other ways to do it.

What is really in a name? And that is the question that goes to how the decision should be made. In some cases, a woman may have a career or reputation built around her name. Should she have to sacrifice that because of marriage. True, she could change the name legally, but maintain the former name in common usage. But how do you draw that line. Or as the previous commentor mentioned, what if the name is sentimental. Or worse yet, what if the husband's name is god-awful! LOL! I had a classmate that got married and she was undecided because her husband had a very long polish name that started with Z! So can you really blame her!?

In my marriage, my wife uses my name in common usage, however, her legal name is still her maiden name. It's satisfactory to me (although, I do tease her sometimes that she's using a fake name, but believe me, its all in fun), and it allows her to continue to honor her own father. I think, in the "real world", you have to be sensitive to the wants and needs of your partner. If you, as a woman, are adamant about keeping your last name, I say keep it. Because, when it all comes down to it, your legal name should not affect your love for each other.

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Please comment, or go over to Sunny's Spoken Words & Thoughts to see what they're saying!

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => "Daughters of Zeus & Mnemosyne" by @IAmMsNikks

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

This was a most WONDERFUL post! I definitely can relate to the choices in friends that are made in adulthood, as compared to yester-year. I have done the same as Ms. Nikks describes in this powerful post about friends and friendships. You truly have to cherish the friends that are a positive, inspirational and/or motivating force in your life. That is “true love” at its finest! People who you choose to be around and close too, doing what they do best and making you happier (and all the more better) for it! This post has made keeping that idea close to mind and helped me realize the friends I will keep close to my heart!

That is what Stylez thinks! Read the post below and leave a comment about what friends/friendship mean to you!

Daughters of Zeus & Mnemosyne

By Ms. Nikks

As my friend Elle and I walked towards the tiny cafe on the corner of 109 Street, we looked in and saw our friend Ash sitting at one of tables. I make a face at her through the window, she frowns and rolls her eyes, because we’re late (as usual). I entered the building as if for the first time. Usually it’s a bit busier and all you can hear is the clicking of keyboards as uni students type away at papers or  are messing around on facebook or twitter. Today it was quiet.

I order an iced chai latte and a few vegan samosas. Elle, Ash, and I move closer to the back of the small cafe and make ourselves comfortable in large booth. The girls are talking and I take time to check out the vibrant paintings on the wall. The smell of the various spices used in the East Indian cuisine that the cafe specializes in. I feel like I’m somewhere else, not in this city that sometimes has me feeling trapped. I hear Nina Simone singing one of my favorites “Misunderstood”. My friends look at me and smile, they know it’s my favorite. They don’t expect me to talk when my song is on. My food and drink are ready. I’m back to focusing on the conversation at hand.

We talk about men and what to do with them, work, travel plans, the previous week and the upcoming week. We talk about everything! I realize how things have changed and how people change. I’ve always been picky about the people I choose to associate with. In high school it was about being labelled. In college, it was about staying on track. Now those days are long gone and I’m finding it’s not really about being stereotyped, my decision on the types of friends I choose has to do with inspiration.

I’ve made friends and I’ve lost friends. I used to think about those losses from time to time, but I say to myself these days, “Ain’t nobody thinkin’ ’bout you!” That’s enough for me to get over it. These girls are more than amazing friends, they’re my sisters and I’d definitely lose sleep over losing them. These girls are my sounding board. If I’m feeling uninspired they motivate me. I’m hardly insecure or unsure, but the rare occasions when I am, they enkindle me with encouragement. They don’t leave me until I’m feeling 100.

It is so important to have people around you who are impassioned, not people who are just yes men and women. Surround yourself with friends who influence you to love art, music from Bach to Florence & The Machine, foreign foods, travel, theatre/broadway, and those who encourage you to always better yourself. Surround yourself with the daughters of Zeus & Mnemosyne. Surround yourself with a muse or two! Thanks for the inspiration heifers!

Nikki Nikks

via nicoledanique.wordpress.com

 

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Lydia Cotton's "For Colored Girls Who Considered Scapegoating" VLog

via youtube.com

Make sure you watch the video above...
So What Does STYLEZ Think?

WOW! She is keeping it SUPER REAL! I love this video. It's actually pertinent to women AND men. Men can really learn from this too. And everything she said about Tyler Perry is SO ON POINT! Tyler Perry is THE WORSE thing that's ever happened to black people! I mean I can understand one, two, MAYBE three movies, but EVERY MOVIE profits off of negative stereotypes!

And after watching the video, I read the comments (check out the ones here too where I originally found this vid). There were quite a few people that agreed with her, as I did. But there were so many caught up on her comments about having nothing but good relationships. The people that were commenting on her "leaving good relationships" are TOTALLY missing the point! A good relationship doesn't mean it's supposed to last forever! Having a good relationship doesn't mean it should lead to marriage. A good relationship just means it was healthy, drama free and either mutually beneficial or leads to personal growth!

She apparently has enough common sense to either know what real love is, know when a person is in your life for only a season or had an incompatibility with a person and felt it was too big to settle. That's STRENGTH! If MORE people would have a clue about how a relationship should be, they could say the same thing she's saying! I can also safely say that all of my relationships were good relationships. And guess what, I only got married ONCE! And not to the woman in my first "good relationship"! Anyway, all-in-all, I think she is offering a lot of sound and good advice. It is a very touchy, but real subject that needs to be addressed, from both sides. And I am glad someone so eloquent and level-headed has brought it to the forefront!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Please comment and state your case!

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => Facebook Therapy! Do we need help, or are we just attention whores!?!?

So What Does STYLEZ Think? 

I was checking out a friend's blog and she was describing the ever present issue of people seeking attention and gratification via Facebook and other social networks. In the end, she summized that people are just fooling themselves or trying to fool others into thinking that they have either a great life, or the worse life ever! Well I TOTALLY AGREE … to a point!

I think many people find the “group therapy” aspect of FB (and other social sites, but especially FB since you get such instant gratification of comments/likes/replies from like everyone you know). I recently started group therapy for parents of troubled teens and I must say, it is like a REAL LIVE Facebook wall! We even start the meetings off with a “status update”. Then the therapist makes comments, others may chime in, and you end up with like a slew of advice, cosigns and other information…. see what I mean, Facebook Live! LOL!

But believe me, when you are apart of something like that, it makes you feel good. It gives you a great feeling of not being alone in the world, or not being alone in your situation, or in your feelings! FB does that for a lot of people. Believe me, even if you just want people to know what you are doing NEXT, it is filling a void for you that you may need attention, or you want someone else to say, hey, I’m doing that too, or I’m going to meet you there! That’s what makes social networking, well, social! One day, I bet any kind of money, there will be therapists prescribing people to join certain groups/fan pages in FB for them to get their group therapy session in, without leaving their home! Matter of fact, maybe I should suggest it to my group therapist!!! LOL!!!

But really, are people's constant updates a way of fooling themselves, or a plea for attention, or a cry for help, or maybe all the above!?! Whatever it may be, it is what FB is there for. We talk (or update), people will listen! We pour out our problems, people will intervene or give advice! We share our ups, people will LIKE it and give us praise! We share our downs, and people will be there to pick up the pieces! Should it be out on the internet, for the world to see? Some of it maybe not, but believe me, Facebook is the cheapest, and easiest, therapy in the world! And it just might help some people make it!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Let me know and let the world know! ;-) 

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => 15 Smart Job Questions To Ask The Interviewer @ www.DouglesChan.Com

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

I have recently been on the hunt for a new job. So I come across this other blog, touting 15 questions to ask the interviewer! I do have a problem with coming up with "good questions to ask the interviewer" so this blog post piqued my interest! After being on BOTH sides of the interview table, I must say that a list like this is essential for new job hires. However, I (maybe it's personal or maybe its my industry) would avoid some of the questions listed below. And a few I am definitely going to use on my next interview! Here are my thoughts on the questions suggested by Mr. Chan:

GREAT TIP - Ask open-ended, precise questions and avoid the yes or no replies.

GREAT TIP - Ask questions that show your intelligence and knowledge about your industry by asking well-thought out questions that are relevant to the position or organization

GREAT TIP - Don’t ask about salary, vacation/sick pay or benefits

GREAT TIP - Don’t ask about things that were discussed in the interview unless you need clarification or expansion

REALLY GREAT TIP (a lot of people have a tendency to do this) - Don’t ask more than one question at a time

GREAT TIP (you don't want to make the interviewer feel stupid either, especially if they're going to be your direct boss) - Don’t ask too difficult questions that the interviewer may not be able to answer

GREAT QUESTION - What three things attracted you to this company?

GOOD QUESTION - What do you enjoy the most about working for this company?

OK QUESTION (but really, you should be TELLING them how you are going to make this position successful) - What aspects of this position would you like to see improve?

WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => The "Congressional Reform Act of 2011" Email - Is it a Good Idea or Not!? #Politics

I received the following in an email recently, take a look:

The 26th amendment (granting the right to vote for 18 year-olds) took only 3 months & 8 days to be ratified!
Why? Simple! The people demanded it.  That was in 1971...before computers, before e-mail, before cell phones, etc. Of the 27 amendments to the Constitution, seven (7) took 1 year or less to become the law of the land...all because of public pressure. I'm asking each addressee to forward this email to a minimum of twenty people on their address list; in turn ask each of those to do likewise. In three days, most people in The United States of America will have the message. This is one idea that really should be passed around.
Congressional Reform Act of 2011
1. Term Limits.
12 years only, one of the possible options below.

A. Two Six-year Senate terms

B. Six Two-year House terms

C. One Six-year Senate term and three Two-Year House terms 

2.  No Tenure / No Pension. 
A Congressman collects a salary while in office and receives no pay when they are out of office.
3.  Congress (past, present & future) participates in Social Security.
All funds in the Congressional retirement fund move to the Social Security system immediately.  All future funds flow into the Social Security system, and Congress participates with the American people.
4. Congress can purchase their own retirement plan, just as all Americans do.
5. Congress will no longer vote themselves a pay raise.  Congressional pay will rise by the lower of CPI or 3%.
6. Congress loses their current health care system and participates in the same health care system as the American people.
7. Congress must equally abide by all laws they impose on the American people.
The American people did not make this contract with Congressmen.  Congressmen made all these contracts for themselves. Serving in Congress is an honor, not a career.  The Founding Fathers envisioned citizen legislators, so ours should serve their term(s), then go home and back to work.
If each person contacts a minimum of twenty people then it will only take three days for most people (in the U.S.) to receive the message.  Maybe it is time.
THIS IS HOW YOU FIX CONGRESS!

So What Does STYLEZ Think?
Well, I believe this kind of reform is definitely needed. It's been needed for decades! When the third & fourth term election of FDR occurred in 1940 & 1944, it sparked the subsequent creation of the 22nd Amendment to limit presidential terms. At that time, a knowing and understanding legislation should have made a decision then to also limit other areas of government. Will this perpetual use of the American public's tax dollar to permanently take care of political figures ever cease, or will it continue to mirror the kind of system for which monarchies have enjoyed for centuries! Yes, as was the case of (one of) George Washington's reasonings for avoiding a third term, I feel that term limits would be "a bulwark against a monarchy". And where do you see THE PEOPLE taking care of their "rulers" for life, in a monarchy! So it is indeed time for a change. How we go about getting a group of individuals to limit themselves is probably open to argument, but it is an argument that is worth debating at a time when we are declining into an econonic depression that appears to be lasting years longer than it ever should have! 
That is what Stylez thinks, what do you think? Please comment and let us know what suggestions you have for making such a Congressional Reform possible!

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WILLIE STYLEZ TECH REVIEW => iNudge.net lets EVERYONE Create Music! YES even you!

So What Does STYLEZ Think?

While using one of my favorite Google Chrome browser extensions, Click&Clean, I discovered they had a link to a cool tool that lets you, YES YOU, create music! It's called iNudge.net! That's right, an online mini-music studio is available for your use 24/7/365! It's not as extensive as Uloops Music Studio for Android but it has some really cool sounds and lot of potential as a way for the everyday guy or gal to experiment and play musical arrangements to their heart's content! I gave it a try and within SECONDS... YES, SECONDS! I had a musical arrangement that sounded really cool! After exploring it a little more, and finding a few more options, I had a nice little 16 bar track made! Check it out:

 

So head on over to iNudge.net and see what you can create with a (very) little time and a lot of fun!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think?

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WHAT STYLEZ THINKS => About Android versus iPhone

So What Does Stylez Think?

I was on Facebook today and found this posting from LifeHacker website

Have you switched from Android to iPhone? Let us know how it went (what worked, what didn't, etc.).

Now, after re-reading that question about 12 times, I realized that they REALLY SAID "Have you switched from Android TO iPhone"!!! I'm still convinced it was a typo, because that has got to be the most BACKWARD question ever asked by a technology web magazine! Of course, the comments went NUTS! Of course I had to join in because its what us techies do!

What WILLIE STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT=> TSA Scanners & The SUPER PAT-DOWN … STFU & Get in the Scanner Anna-Mae!

What Does STYLEZ Think?

As many of my Twitter/Facebook/Buzz friends saw recently, I am kinda passionate about this Airport Security topic! And lately, I have been getting VERY frustrated with the whiners and complainers! To the point where I had to post this on my statuses:

wish ppl quit their frickin whining & get over it! Want the TSA to Stop scanning & groping... DONT GET MAD WHEN PLANES GET BLOWN UP! #ScanMe

WHAT STYLEZ THINKS ABOUT => "Reality Rehab: Suicide and Survival When Filming Stops"

So What Does STYLEZ Think?
On one hand, reality TV shows breed bad and erratic behavior! We all KNOW these people would not do some of the things they do for the camera in real life! Some people are "born" to be noticed or famous, or both! But reality tv escalates that and sensationalizes it! I can't stand to see the Kim K's and Snooki's but its what disgusts me about them, that makes them so "marketable" to this Fast Food Generation! It needs to stop! But on the other hand, for the most part, these people are ADULTS! They have made choices and decisions in their life and they should be responsible for them! We can't blame the reality show that ended or eliminated them because they have decided they can't live and function in normal society! If you are YEARS removed from a situation, but can't seem to stop dwelling on it, we can't blame the situation, it was your fault for not seeking help or continuing to get it. Those shows can't be expected to baby sit these people for decades after they leave! That's preposterous! When was the last time you had a regular job, no matter how much they made off your efforts, comeback 3 or 5 years after FIRING you and say, "hey, can we help you with your unstable ass!?!?" SMDH! People have to be adults and grow up!
That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Read the article below and comment!

Gordon Ramsay and Joe Cerniglia in "Kitchen Nightmares" (Fox)

Earlier this month, Nadia Almada was found lying unconscious in her bathroom after an overdose of prescription pills. It was only a week since she’d been kicked off the British version of "Big Brother," a gargantuan hit in the UK.
"I just feel my life isn’t worth living any more,” Alameda, a Portuguese transsexual, had told the Daily Star two days after her eviction. After her failed suicide attempt days later, producers of the series released a statement saying: "We have been in constant touch with Nadia and like all housemates, she has access to all of our aftercare facilities."